long-distance marriage

I was in a commuter marriage

It was no commute a sane person would fathom. From early 2001 to late 2002, I lived and worked in Tokyo–6,737 miles (10,840 km) away (according to this useful calculator) from my husband, who remained home in Leonia, N.J.

Why would either of us even contemplate such a crazy set-up? Work, of course. I was offered my dream job: Tokyo …