5 Toxic Beliefs That Will Basically Ruin Your Life

People who hold these beliefs tend lack the energy required to create their own success. Don't be one of them.

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The Book of Proverbs in the Old Testament is, in my opinion, one of the best business books ever published.  One passage, in particular, contains a world of business wisdom: “As a man believes so is he.” (23:7)

In the past, I’ve written in this blog about the beliefs that make people more successful.  However, I’ve observed that there are five other beliefs that consistently make people less successful. Make sure you don’t subscribe to any of these

1. My self-worth is based on what others think of me.

Some people define themselves based upon how they guess their boss, co-workers, relatives and friends see them. When they are convinced that others think poorly of them, such people lack the self-confidence necessary to consistently take action.

2. My past equals my future.

When some people experience a series of setbacks, they assume that their goals are not achievable. Over time, they become dispirited and discouraged, and avoid situations where failure is a risk.  Because any significant effort entails risk, such people are then unable to make significant achievements.

3. My destiny is controlled by the supernatural.

Some people believe that their status in life–or even their potential as a human being–is determined by luck, fate, or divine intervention.  This all-too-common (and ultimately silly) belief robs such people of initiative, making them passive as they wait for their “luck” to change.

4. My emotions accurately reflect objective reality.

Some people believe that their emotions are caused by external events. In truth, though emotions are determined by the perception of those events, combined with preconceptions about what those events mean. Such people find it difficult or impossible to “get out of their own heads” and see situations from another person’s viewpoint.

5. My goal is to be perfect or do something perfectly. 

Because perfection is unattainable, the people who seek it are simply setting themselves up for disappointment. Perfectionists blame the world (and everything in it) rather than doing what’s necessary to accomplish extraordinary results.  That’s why “successful perfectionist” is an oxymoron.

If you’re suffering from any of these five beliefs, I strongly recommend expunging them in favor of better beliefs. I explain how to do this in this post “How to Be Happy at Work” (in the post, I call them “rules”, but that’s the same thing as “beliefs.”)

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16 comments
jjanlitt44
jjanlitt44

The writer forgot to add the "liberal agenda" its extremely toxic to your health.  No job leaves a legacy as to what kind of person you were or what kind of character you had.  Work is something one does to support oneself.  The values and beliefs systems we adopt can help or harm many others long after we depart from this life.  How we lived is the imprint we leave behind.  Its more important than where we worked or what kind of work we did for a couple of years. 

ThundalArchsys
ThundalArchsys

5 depends on what you're doing.  As a speedrunner, perfection is attainable, the goal, and frequently achieved.  perfection being the goal and it not being attained being acceptable is also an alternative, as many hackers will tell you.

lordofthefly
lordofthefly

RE: Number three:

I see scores of people lined up to buy lottery tickets or heading off to Vegas. Sure, someone will win. Your chances are one in 10 million. But ... your luck could change, right? Don't count on it.

KathleenModinaMori
KathleenModinaMori

I am a Christian and I am put off with #3.  I do believe a supernatural being (that is, God) does control my life and has a plan for me.  I don't find it silly.  Publishing such a statement is insensitive to many people of faith.  However, I do agree that you shouldn't wait around hoping God will drop something in your lap.  Christians believe that God does guide your life, but ultimately the choice to live out your life to the fullest potential is up to you.  

akstanwyck
akstanwyck

these copd ads are driving me crazy, throughout the site.

MACRM32
MACRM32

@KathleenModinaMori  I think he's right. I come from a religious family and all too often I'll see my mom and my grandmother blame "envy" and whatnot for their own misfortunes, spending money on God knows what hoaxes, when what they should do is simply change their own perception of things. My mom hates her job, and yet can't seem to grasp the notion that, if she dislikes it, naturally, everything that happens there is going to be a reflection of her own dislike.

lordofthefly
lordofthefly

@KathleenModinaMori 

My first thought was of people who gamble. My parents had a friend who lost their beautiful home because of gambling debts. It's safer and more rewarding to pray. Many people can't understand this, and it's one reason people are so depressed. They spend too much time inside their heads feeling sorry for themselves. Prayer lightens the spirit and makes you feel optimistic. (I do understand about clinical depression, and many people can't help that. But what could alleviate it, in addition to exercise, is some belief in a power greater than yourself. Surveys show that people who are religious and married (or have a life mate) are the happiest. Now people make fun of those who believe, and they don't get married. Too bad.

mysterymeat
mysterymeat

Here we go again with the whining! Oh, nobody respects my religion, oh, they are bashing christianity, oh, everybody needs to know about the one and only truth.  Will you stop it already? If you are so high and holy, why are you reading anything that you KNOW you will not agree with?  Why are you commenting on anything that is obviously not guided by your god? Why do you feel like you have to defend your god?  I could go on and on - I am just tired of reading comments by people who obviously have no tolerance for anything outside of their own limited field of vision.

rsahota420
rsahota420

@KathleenModinaMori I think you're taking it wrong. It's not putting your belief down at all. It's saying you control your life, not your beliefs. You can't wait for "destiny" to kick in, or you can create your own. Also, without disregarding your faith. Be open to more religions than just your own. If you don't want to seem ignorant. Not all people are Christians. You learn a lot more in life, when you have an open-mind. 

seraxmd
seraxmd

Don't worry Kathleen, @megacandyman ridicules you, while waiting for the government to answer his prayers. Why liberals preach Darwinism is beyond me.

lordofthefly
lordofthefly

@seraxmd 

I find it odd that people foam at the mouth over racism and sexism, yet see nothing wrong in being critical of someone else's beliefs. I see that as - what's the word - thoughtless. Ignorant, too.