6 Unique Ways to Be Successful and Happy

Tired of searching for the secret to a fulfilling career and a happy life? Look no further.

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What if the key to becoming successful and happy is to quit trying to be either? Would that throw a wrench into your career goals? Make a mess of your life plans? If so, then you need to read this.

Here’s the thing. Never before have there been so many people spending so much time searching for the secrets to a successful career and a happy life. Which is really a shame because they’re not going to find either, at least not that way.

There are lots of reasons why that is, but the most glaringly obvious one is that nobody ever got anywhere by doing what everyone else is doing.

Think about it. The world has never been more competitive. If you want to have a fulfilling career and live a good life, you’ve got to get ahead of the competition. The only way to do that is to do things differently, to find your own unique path that works for you.

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Here are six ways to do that, to become successful and happy.

Build real relationships. What a novel concept, right? While everyone else is wasting their time developing their personal brands and building huge online networks, get out and spend time with real people in the real world. One-on-one in real time. That’s the only place you’ll find real opportunity and friendship. And that’s where success and happiness comes from. No kidding.

Groom yourself. Want to know how great companies that churn out hundreds of future CEOs develop their talent? They identify and recruit up-and-comers and then groom them by moving them around into different areas and situations. That’s how they learn a broad range of skills. Experience. Get out in the world. Try different things. Get your hands dirty. That’s how you’ll find opportunity and figure out what makes you happy.

Do nothing. So much of life is out of our control. We never seem to have enough information to solve tough problems and make important decisions. When you need to gain some perspective, resist the urge to seek out more information. Turn off all the sources of communication, all the noise that distracts you. Just be quiet and listen to your own inner thoughts. Don’t judge them; just listen. The answers to life’s most difficult challenges are always there.

Work for a great company. Everybody wants to be an entrepreneur these days. Here’s a novel thought. Go work for a great company. Learn from people smarter, more accomplished, more experienced than you. Learn from the pros. Find a mentor or two. Learn how business works in the real world. Figure out how you can help that company be even better. What you can bring to the party that really matters and nobody else is doing. If you’re meant to be an entrepreneur, an opportunity will come to you. And you’ll be ready for it.

Do one thing at a time. Everyone’s so distracted with social media and all their slash jobs these days, try picking one thing you really want to do and just get it done. Prioritize. It’ll provide a sense of accomplishment and control. It’ll help you build confidence. Even if it fails, you’ll learn from the experience. And you’ll gain strength from knowing that failure didn’t kill you. That will make you more resilient and give you courage to tackle bigger things.

Be good to yourself. Most people who want a lot out of life are their own worst enemy. They take themselves too seriously. Judge themselves too harshly. Expect too much out of themselves and others. If you can learn to let go of all your expectations, quit trying so hard to get somewhere, you’ll learn that just being you, present in this moment, is all that matters. That’s what life is all about. And that’s when all good things will come to you. Success, happiness, everything.

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15 comments
ForbesBenny
ForbesBenny

I will read this article everyday and will check if I am doing it. but For me being happy is all about money. I know it is sad but :( with this I am having problems in saving money :( So what I do is I read a lot of blogs on hbr and seth godin's typepad and Vivek Sood's blog. I learn a lot from the author Vivek Sood with his  The 5 star business networks talks about  different business trends, models and strategies that can help students and business execs in making their business flourish. So what I do is go on business - so that I will have lots of money - then i can save that way. I just need to increase my salary. ugh. work hard.

Dwayne Leon
Dwayne Leon

As the lyrics of a nursary song once taught me, Read your Bible, pray everyday... :)

Khawaja Muhammad Owais
Khawaja Muhammad Owais

just pray to GOD at night when yr alone with the lights off n yull feel GOD himself talking to you. . . yu'll feel peace mentally physically too

Cori LBere
Cori LBere

there must be a balance, one can not walk around with your head in the clouds, or stuck in high tec, !

Natalie Nirgude Smetak
Natalie Nirgude Smetak

"Trust the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge HIM, and HE will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6). Time tested and it works!!!

Jesús Eduardo
Jesús Eduardo

The best method, leave all material chainings behind. Money is an illusion. Luxuries just enslave you. Stressed? Try turning off any mobile, or electronic device. Meditate. Rest your spirit. You'll feel much better. And after a week or two without the bothersome ringing or beeping, you'll feel freer. Try spending time among nature, and wonder yourself why hadn't you done it before. Being free for real is easy. People are the ones that think that by making tons of money and gatering lots of stuff and getting into eternal debts they will live in comfort and luxury and be free. Haven't you still realised the best things on Earth are the ones you won't ever get at WalMart? Such things can only be found in Nature, and her won't try to charge you for anything you respectfully take from her. Wake up to a mentality change. We don't need money, and we never did for quite a long time. It's a creation to keep us delusional and dreaming an oxymoronic "free" life.

ForbesBenny
ForbesBenny

Be Calm and read the 5-Star Business Networks by Vivek Sood. That way you can store a lot of info before venturing into some business. Of course you will earn money and money is happiness and success.

JohnOstrowick
JohnOstrowick

Well duh. If you'd bothered to read the Tao Te Ching you'd know this stuff. "Do nothing, and there is nothing left undone. Do without doing". Lao Tzu, 500BC (more or less).