No one likes to hear that they aren’t performing well. Yet, everyone can improve. Next time you receive constructive feedback, do these three things:
- Relax. It’s understandable to be nervous during a feedback session. The other person holds all the power. Accept this imbalance and be easy on yourself.
- Expect to be surprised. You’re likely to hear something that you weren’t aware of. Perhaps something was a bigger deal than you thought, or something you thought was resolved wasn’t.
- Don’t be defensive. Even if you disagree, hold your tongue. Instead of defending yourself, ask questions. Once you’ve cooled down, you can always follow up.